25 Days of Christmas Favorite Movie Challenge – NaBloPoMo #30



Christmas time is one of my favorite times of the year! I love the spirit of Christmas and what it means. The spirit of giving and being kind to one another should resonate throughout the year, not just in December. However, there is also a softer, sillier side to the season that takes me back to my childhood. This year I have decided to make a list of my all time favorite Christmas Movies and establish a challenge to all of my writing friends. It will run Dec 1 – 25.

I am going to list my favorite movies below and for the next 25 days I will go down the list, watch the movie and write a blog pertaining to it. I am inviting all of you to join in the fun. Feel free to select your favorite(s) from my list and ping back to my page to let me know you are participating. The kicker will be this, I challenge you to take a character from the movie and write a blog from that character’s point of view. Please tag your post #Rebirth25days.

Here is my list, Enjoy!

1) Christmas Vacation
2) Home Alone 2
3) Charlie Brown Christmas
4) Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer
5) Frosty the Snowman
6) Santa Claus is Coming to Town
7) Scrooged
8) The Preacher’s Wife
9) The Nativity Story
10) It’s a Wonderful Life
11) Bad Santa
12) Grandma Got Run Over by a Reindeer
13) How the Grinch Stole Christmas
14) Last Holiday
15) The Bishop’s Wife
16) A Christmas Carol
17) Best Man Holiday
18) Prancer
19) Four Christmases
20) The Perfect Holiday
21) Miracle on 34th Street
22) Elf
23) This Christmas
24) A Christmas Story
25) A Nightmare Before Christmas

Participate as much or as little as you like, but look for my posts daily. Be creative and have fun!

Single Ladies (Keep Your Head Up) – NaBloPoMo #29



I wanted to address something that has been on my mind for a minute and that is the way some women accept any kind of treatment from a man. Today I was perusing Facebook and ran across a video from this guy who says men don’t want a good woman. At first I wanted to scream on him, but I calmed myself and listened to what he was saying. He was essentially saying there is a generation of men, under 30, who are lazy, don’t want to work and want a weak woman who will take care of them and do everything for them. He says those men are intimidated be good women because they are too strong and will require too much of them. I was blown away at his honesty.

After watching this video I started thinking about the old adage that a woman has the exact love life she wants because she is in control of everything. Think about it ladies, if you allow a man to get away with being lazy or disrespectful then he will continue. If you check him the first time he shows that kind of behavior, he knows he can’t get over on you and will think twice before acting out of character.

There seems to be something lost in translation from my generation of 40 somethings and the generation coming up behind us. The females for the most part seem to think because there is a so called shortage of men; they have to accept bad behavior. They are also under the impression if a guy buys you dinner at a half way decent restaurant, say Chili’s or Applebee’s, you are obligated to sleep with him. This is a new concept that I just can’t get with. I am soo thankful I am happily married and don’t have to deal with this mentality, but I have nieces and friends that are still in the trenches dealing with this.

Guys expect a little something at the end of the night these days and will not hesitate to get belligerent if they are denied. Whatever happened to the days when a young man would ask a young lady out for a date with only the expectations of paying for the date and having a nice time? At the end of the night it was a bonus to get a good night kiss. Now guys don’t really even ask, they tell you that you are going out and expect you to either go dutch or pay the entire bill. If that is not bad enough, he is expecting his happy ending at the end of the night.

Ladies you need to take your control back if you want to see different results. Show a man how to treat you and do not accept anything less because you are worth it. Stop dating these bums who want you to be their mama and want you on your knees giving brain within 5 hours of meeting them. Realize your sexuality is a powerful weapon and you should wield it cautiously even when you are committed to each other. Now I am not naive and do not expect people not to engage in sex while dating, I am simply saying just because you are burning with desire doesn’t mean you have to give in to it. He will value the sex and you more if he has to work for it. If he is not willing to wait and put in the work, you just saved yourself some heartache because he wasn’t going to stick around anyway. You hold the cards! A male is going to try and play your hand. It’s your choice to either show your cards or bluff.

This topic reminds me of the first verse of Tupac’s song “Keep Your Head up”. We need to question the reason some young men hate our women and is this the reason we have a race of babies who hate the ladies?

Mama’s Girl – NaBloPoMo #28


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Just because I’m 40 doesn’t mean
I don’t need you anymore…
A girl always needs her mama.

Don’t think because I don’t call everyday
That I don’t LOVE you…
You are always on my mind.

And if you’re thinking I don’t want to see you
Because I don’t visit often…
You couldn’t be more wrong. (Sometimes I miss you soo much I cry)

No matter how old you get
You always need your mama…
But I have my own family and I can’t get away as much anymore.

However, your mama is never far away
She is always in my heart…
And when it gets too painful, I pick up the phone to hear your voice.

Cooking the Perfect Meal in 5 Easy Steps – NaBloPoMo #27


In the spirit of Thanksgiving, I would like to share my philosophy on cooking and how to ensure your meal is perfect every time.


Step 1:
Get Instructions from someone who knows what they are doing. This is an obvious step, but it is very important. You never want to take cooking advice from that one friend who thinks she can cook, but nobody has the heart to tell her she sucks. I was fortunate enough to learn from my mom who is a fabulous cook. She could have been a professional chef if she had ever tried. My mouth waters even now when I think about her cooking. Note: There will always be something lost in translation. Don’t get upset, this happens to everyone. There is always one dish that you will never be able to duplicate and that’s fine. Just get it as close as possible.

Step 2:
Use the best ingredients you can afford. Now don’t get me wrong, sometimes the best is not always the most expensive. You have to do your research. Just remember, fresh is always your best option, then frozen and lastly canned when buying veggies. Read the ads and tailor your menu to what is on sale. You don’t have to be a millionaire to eat great food; you just have to be smart. Here’s a tip: visit your butcher early in the morning. They usually start very early and the cuts are fresh. You will have the pick of the litter and if you see a nice piece of meat that you want cut, they are already in that cutting mood so it will be less of a hassle for them.

Step 3:
You must be confident. Don’t just learn the steps and go through the motions, you have to know what you are doing. Once you leave your instructor, you are on your own. Read the recipe so you know it by heart, but keep it handy for reference. You’ve learned from the best, now get in there and show us what you got!

Step 4:
Cook with LOVE! I know it sounds cliché, but it’s true. You must enjoy cooking in some sense or you will never have a great meal. You have to put a little bit of yourself in every meal that you create. The energy you have while you are cooking is what comes out in the food. Have you ever been in a bad mood and tried to cook? Usually those emotions come out in the food and it just doesn’t come out right. On the flip side, if you’re happy and singing your meal comes out delicious. Well that’s what I’m talking about. If you have to cook and happen to find yourself in a bad mood, turn on some music and watch the goodness just slide on through. Don’t believe me watch the movie “Like Water for Chocolate”.

Step 5:
Presentation is key. Nobody wants to eat ugly food. It’s a proven fact that even if your food is delicious, the way it is presented has a psychological affect on people. They will not like it if it looks bad. Unfortunately it doesn’t work in reverse so I hope you really paid attention during your lessons. Check out Christmas Vacation to see what I’m talking about.

Enjoy you Thanksgiving and don’t forget to have a little fun while you’re in the kitchen! Cook with LOVE!

Heavenly Carrot Cake – NaBloPoMo #26



Today I spent a lot of time baking for Thanksgiving. One of my favorite things to bake is Patti LaBelle’s Heavenly Carrot Cake. It is easier to make than other carrot cakes and is the best I have ever tasted! It’s always a big hit and you don’t have to shred carrots!!! Check out the recipe:



I Woke Up Like This? – NaBloPoMo #25



Today’s post was suggested by Writer’s Path on his blog today: “A Celebrity realizes that he/she isn’t real.” I saw this and thought I would have a little fun…. I wonder what would happen if Queen Bey, Beyonce to all Non Beehive Members, went to sleep one night and woke up a regular girl.

In my head Beyonce is a real down chick, but has an image she must uphold because of the monster that was created by her PR team years ago. I would even venture to say she would enjoy being a regular girl, but I just know she would miss the lime light. This is what I think will happen if the day should ever come when Beyonce is no longer a celebrity.

The scene is a messy bedroom, clothes and shoes everywhere. It is a modest apartment with a queen size bed, nightstand and dresser with a mirror. On the bed lies a woman who appears to be recovering from as wild night out. She is wearing a dress from the night before and has one shoe on. Her makeup is smeared and her blonde weave is a mess. Suddenly the alarm goes off and the woman is jarred awake. She looks in the mirror and wonders what happened to her. After all, she is the fabulous pop star who would never be caught dead in this apartment. Whose place is this and why is she here? She stumbles to her feet and calls out for her husband. There is silence. Now she is fully awake and is starting to get scared. Where is everyone and why did they leave her in this apartment? She looks around for clues as to what happened and locates what appears to be her phone.

This isn’t my new iPhone, I have the 7.0 version that hasn’t even come out yet; this phone is a 4s. She tries her password anyway and the phone opens. She looks at the contact list and sure enough she sees her last call was to her sister, Solange. She looks at the pictures and sees pictures of her looking drunk in a club with a bunch of basic chicks. Who are these girls and why do I blend in with them she thinks to herself. She calls Solange and is sent straight to voice mail. This never happens, Solange always takes my calls. She decides to look around the apartment and locates some mail on the dresser. It is addressed to her, but has a weird address in Houston. What is going on? I live in NYC! She turns on the TV and TMZ is reporting a story titled “Solange’s sister does it again”. They are talking about Solo as if she is the biggest star on the planet and then they show footage of her and those basic girls from her photos running around hotels shooting videos with an iPad. They are drinking Slurpees and she is doing crazy dances with one leg. They called it 7/11. How embarrassing, she was never a star at all, just a regular chick hanging with her girls. Then she hears Biggie Smalls voice in her head “It Was All a Dream, I Used to Read Word Up Magazine….”

Curvy Girls – NaBloMoPo #24


curvy girl

Do you hate me because I jiggle when I walk?
That just gives you something to talk
About last night when your man was eyeing me.

Look a little harder, it’s not hard to see
He checks me out from the corner of his eye
Ashamed of me in public, but his heart can’t lie.

He fantasies star me and all of my fat
Don’t worry he’ll stay put cause
I wouldn’t do you like that.

Curvy girls are cute, Curvy girls are fine
Just watch us blow your mind.

Do you hate me because I make you uncomfortable?
Is it that you see yourself wanting to be
As free as I am?

Not afraid to eat or have fun with my man
Does it bother you that I am care free?
Yet you seem to be locked in a prison
That only you can see.

Curvy girls are cute, Curvy girls are fine
Just watch us blow your mind.

Do you hate me because I’m sexy as hell?
My curves fall just right
And put you under a spell.

Do you really hate me?
Or is it you that needs the work?
Because I don’t get attention by having to twerk.

Curvy girls are cute, Curvy girls are fine
Just watch us blow your mind.

The next time you see me on the street
Take the time to talk instead of judging me.
We may not have the same body,
But we share the same space
I’ll gladly meet you any time, any place.

Curvy girls are cute, Curvy girls are fine
Just watch us blow your mind.

Featured Member Posts


Hi Guys,

I just wanted to write a quick post to let you all know that 2 of my posts have been featured on the BlogHer site!

I was super excited when I checked my profile and noticed one of my blogs had a different picture than the original one I posted. When I clicked on the story I realized the title had been changed from “How to Write a Great Love Letter to Your Spouse” to “5 Simple Steps to Write the Perfect Love Letter to Your Spouse”. There were a few minor changes to the article done by the editor and then it was featured in the Love & Sex section of their site and has been read 230 times.

The second post again had a different picture, for copyright reasons I assumed, but this one had the same title; 5 Things We Learned from Solange’s Wedding. They changed the pictures I posted into links as well as the video, but the post was pretty much left alone. To date this post has been read 472 times!

I can’t tell you how excited I am about this recognition with this being the first time I have participated in the NaBloPoMo event. If you haven’t done so, please read the articles and let me know what you think. I value all feedback.




This is a blog I wrote back in July before I moved to Tampa. I guess I liked the city enough to move here:

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Have you ever been is a room of complete strangers and felt invisible? As a plus size woman in a skinny world, I have known that feeling all too often. When I first arrive, it’s all eyes on me piercing me with the disapproving looks and disgust. Most people don’t even realize they are staring for such a long time. Once they have their initial look they do everything in their power to avoid looking me in the eye. When I was younger and more insecure, I would let this bother me and change my mood. I was no longer the fat, jolly lady everyone expected me to be. Instead they found themselves on the receiving end of dirty looks and the more aggressive ones would receive some not so pretty dialogue. Now a days I have matured and found that I really don’t give a hoot what people think. As long as they don’t disrespect me I don’t react to their rudeness. That being said, I try to avoid crowds when I have PMS because we all know there is no controlling yourself during this time and I get a pass. As a larger woman I have taken many trips and have noticed that the world in general either does not know or they don’t care about the day to day plight of the plus size person. I have decided to write about my experiences and here is the first entry in my world of travel.

This weekend my husband and I took a road trip down to Tampa, St. Petersburg to be more precise. In addition to him needing a break from work, his favorite MLB team the Milwaukee Brewers were in town. Throughout our trip, there were a few times that I really felt like people wanted me and people my size to disappear or just not exist. The first of these times was when we checked into our hotel. The location was downtown St. Petersburg which is a historic district. Our hotel of choice, Hotel Indigo, was a historic building that stayed true to the neighborhood. The hotel website advertised a spacious king room with a large bathroom. What we got instead was a small corner of a room with a miniature bathroom whose shower stall (there was not tub) was larger than the rest of the bathroom. Without giving too much detail, to use the toilet was challenging to say the least. My knees were almost touching the wall unless I turned toward the stand up shower, the toilet paper holder was positioned so you could barely reach it and it was designed with the back portion of the holder open so the roll easily fell off. The room did come equipped with a king size bed, a small dresser the size of a college dorm refrigerator and a desk whose chair was made for someone with no hips. The décor was bright and had a tropical feel with hot pink, Caribbean green and white colors that popped off of the dark wood furniture. We had to sit on the bed in order to watch the flat screen on the wall above the desk. To top it off the air conditioner worked, but even with the ceiling fan on, the room temperature never dropped below 80 degrees. I will say the staff was friendly and I enjoyed the refreshing complimentary water with orange slices in the lobby. Parking was done via valet for an additional cost which was worth it to avoid receiving a parking ticket on the street.

Our first day there we decided to sight see and found several waterfront parks to relax and enjoy the scenery. The vibe of the area seemed that everyone was working on their fitness and I received several disapproving looks because I wasn’t working on mine. The judgment was evident, but I did not allow it to affect me. I chose to enjoy my mini-cation laughing and talking with my husband. We watched birds flying everywhere and fish jumping from the water and dogs playing in the park. We also found the world famous Sylvia’s Restaurant and decided to eat lunch on Sunday afternoon. I have eaten at the original location in Harlem once and was excited to find a location down south. Sylvia’s in Harlem is known for their soul food and dignitaries as well as presidents have eaten there. The experience was not the best I have ever had and truthfully I prefer my own cooking, but it was nice. Of course I am goofy so I took several pictures and embarrassed my husband. We also ate lunch the following day at a restaurant I found while reading the book in our hotel room. The name was Rumfish Grill and I wanted to eat there because the ad boasted a 33,500 gallon aquarium that was featured on the TV show Tanked. The restaurant walls are decorated by aquatic works of art by Guy Harvey. I loved the atmosphere and enjoyed this experience a great deal. Again I took several pictures to commemorate the occasion, much to my husband’s chagrin.

The most uncomfortable instance happened Monday night at the baseball game. I am not the biggest fan of baseball, but I know the game well. My hubby was excited and that made me want to go. The arena was easy to get around and the staff was friendly and helpful. My challenge came when we got to our seats. Navigating the stairs was ok because there were not that many in our section. We had pretty good seats and were on the first row, which meant no leg room. The seat was narrow and not built for the large and in charge crowd. The arm dug into my hips for 9 innings with the exception of when we stood up to allow other people in and out of the row or during the 7th inning stretch. My big relief came when we decided to partake in the famous ballpark cuisine. We sat up top while we ate because there was no room to eat at our seats. There were however cup holders for our drinks. During the game I like to check out the crowd of people and everywhere I looked it was if people were turning their heads to avoid eye contact which tickled me, but also made me aware how uncomfortable I was making everyone else.

The overall trip was fun and we had soo many laughs and spent some much needed quality time together. I would recommend visiting the ballpark and Rumfish Grill, however if you want to sleep comfortably, avoid the hotel. Sylvia’s was hit or miss, but if you like mediocre soul food this location is for you. I will rate the trip a 7 out of 10 and can’t wait for the next adventures of the Invisible Fat Lady.

Words to Live by – NaBloPoMo #20



I am an avid sports fan, but even if I did not follow sports these words would be relevant. I have used these words to live by in the corporate world to help me adjust to different bosses and projects. I believe they apply to everyone. What do you think?


Respect Yourself and Others

Take Full Responsibility

Develop and Demonstrate Loyalty

Learn to Be a Great Communicator

Discipline Yourself So No One Else Has To

Make Hard Work Your Passion

Don’t Just Work Hard, Work Smart

Put the Team Before Yourself

Make Winning an Attitude

Be a Competitor

Change Is a Must

Handle Success Like You Handle Failure