Seeing this picture inspired me to create some buzz about being humble and remembering there are other people in the world besides you. It’s easy to get carried away with success, especially when you’ve worked very hard for your success. The truth is, most people work hard for what they have, even if they started out with an advantage. Having a big head is not cool and will alienate your friends and family. Before you accuse someone of being a hater, take a look in the mirror and see if you may have contributed to their reactions. There is a good chance the so called hate is just their way of saying you need to calm down and be more humble. It’s true, there are people in your life who are just plain jealous and will never be happy for you no matter what, however, there are also tons of good people who want to see you succeed. There is a fine line, but you must train yourself to know the difference. Pay attention to the way people:
• Look at you when they think you’re not looking – Do they roll their eyes when you say something or are they genuinely interested in what you are saying?
• Talk about you when you are not around – Are they running you down or are they cheerleaders?
• Show up to support your events – Are they usually at your events with smiles or are they always absent and/or complaining?
• Ask you to join them for activities – Are you invited to join in with their fun or are you never invited?
• Post about you on social media – Is there shade going on or do they happily post about your events and ventures?
If you notice people in your circle are being shady or they just don’t seem interested in what you are doing check yourself first, then check out their actions and determine their intent. Sometimes you need to just cut your losses and move on, but if the culprit is you, don’t be afraid to swallow your pride and apologize. Don’t be like Two Slice Hilly… Eat the humble pie before they put in more than that good vanilla from Mexico!
Writing 101: Day 15 – Third Time’s the Charm (Part 3 of 3)
Today, imagine you work in a place where you manage lost or forgotten items. What might you find in the pile? For those participating in out serial challenge reflect on the theme of “lost and found,” too.
Imagine you are a child and you are lost in a big department store. It is one of the most terrifying feelings you have ever felt. Now imagine you’re taken there and left on purpose by your parents. When you realize that you are all alone you hide in the clothing department under a rack of clothes and wonder what will happen to you? No one is looking for you and no one wants to find you. You think your mom does not care that you are gone because you are one of seven children she is struggling to feed and clothe. You annoy you older sisters and brother so they are happy you are gone.
You fall asleep crying when your fear gets to be too much. In your dreams you are floating on clouds and eating marshmallows. There are puppies and kittens to play with and you are the happiest you have ever been. Angels come down from heaven to play games with you and everyone is laughing and having fun.
Suddenly you are jolted awake by a loud scream, I found her! You open your eyes to see a tall strange lady standing over you looking relieved. Then your mom rushes over and hugs you until you can’t breathe. She is crying and very upset. You realize your imagination was running rampant and your mom actually loves you and was looking all over the store for you. She is relieved and happy to hold you in her arms again.
This was a real life scenario of something that happened to me as a child. I thought because my father left me, there was a good chance that my mom would too. I was never reassured that this could not happen and was too afraid to ask.
A child’s imagination is large and very active. If parents do not find time to communicate with their children, they will dream up their own reality to fill in the blanks. When a child asks you a question, please give them an honest answer so as not to breed fear and lies. When a child goes through a trauma like being abandoned, talk with the child and let her know she is loved and the other parent will never leave her.
Writing 101: Day 14 – To Whom It May Concern
(Pick up the nearest book and flip to page 29. What’s the first word that jumps off the page? Use this word as your springboard for inspiration, and try a twist: write in the form of a letter.)
Dear Human Race,
Why are you always misinterpreting the things I say? STOP IT! It’s been this way since I was a child and I have had enough. If you don’t understand, please ask me; I will always be happy to answer your questions. Communication is key. If you can’t comply maybe we should break up!