by Lisa W. Tetting
They say LOVE is color blind. Well, I say it isn’t and it shouldn’t be. Here’s why…
When you meet someone for the first time, what is it you see? The physical characteristics, right? If I meet a man who I think is attractive, there is no way I should simply disregard his skin tone. It is a part of who he is and by pretending not to see his color, I am telling him there is something wrong with it. However, if I embrace his color along with the other things that make him attractive, I am sending the message that I accept all of him, not just what I want to see.
In the past, I used to think it was better to say love was colorblind and everyone was the same on the inside. With wisdom and maturity, I realized this couldn’t be further from the truth, especially in American culture.
Unfortunately, what we look like plays a huge part of what we walk around harboring in our psyche. How we are perceived has a great impact on how we are treated in society, and therefore how we think about ourselves. So even if you don’t care what color someone is, our society has forced us, from a very young age, to recognize the differences.
Now here’s the kicker. Are you ready? It is alright to be different than your mate! In fact, it is awesome! Being with someone of a different race can really enlighten you and help you to see the world through their eyes. What was it the legendary Atticus Finch said? “You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view – until you climb into his skin and walk around in it.” I know he was a fictitious character, but he was on point with this lesson.
If you are in an interracial relationship, you won’t be in their skin exactly, but you will feel what it is like from time to time. When you have to face the bigotry and hatred that is spewed at you when you go out together, at least you will be prepared for it, instead of walking around with rose colored glasses. Don’t misunderstand me. I think rose colored glasses are great, but in today’s society they can do more harm than good, because not everyone is as liberal in their way of thinking. Things could get heated simply because you are with someone who looks different than you.
It is my wish that we could all stop for a minute and unzip ourselves, climb into someone else and walk around for a day.
If that were possible, we would all see that we judge people too quickly and don’t understand their wants and needs. Doing this would help race relations in this country go a long way. Of course, there would be those who would still hate, but at least they would have the knowledge of how others live. They would realize that being proud of who you are is not a threat or in direct competition to other races.
I’ll leave you with this… If a rainbow was all one color, would it be so brilliant? Would you stop what you’re doing to stare up at it and revel in its beauty? Or would it simply be boring and fade into the sky unnoticed?
Come back at 11 to read what Aaron Groben has to say!