Imagine this… Your 5 year old is invited to a classmate’s birthday party, but is a no show after you RSVPd. No biggie, just get the birthday boy a gift and all is well, right? Wrong! had a feature about this very subject. Apparently the birthday boy’s parents decided to invoice the parents of the child who RSVPd, but failed to show because of prior commitment. The defense for the missing party goer was the child was obligated to go see is grandparents and the father did not have the contact information of the hosts.

Now I am the last one to say what someone should and shouldn’t do with their child. If you believe that you’re crazy. I’m very opinionated and this situation is no different. These people should be labeled insane! Granted the story is from the UK and they have a very different culture than we do in the States. That being said human decency is universal and I cannot even imagine unpacking my child’s backpack and finding an invoice for a party he never attended.

The parent of the birthday boy must have watched the Sex in the City episode when Carrie went to a party and the host made her remove her shoes and someone stole them. Carrie asked nicely for the host to replace them and was denied because the lady didn’t think she should have to pay for Carrie’s expensive shoe habit. Then Carrie sent an invitation to her faux wedding shower; I’m marring me kind of thing, with a note telling her “Friend” where she was registered. The funny thing was the party host was the only person invited and Carrie registered at a shoe store for the same shoes that were stolen. In this scenario Carrie was well within her rights to request reimbursement for her stolen shoes because the host demanded she remove her shoes in her home. Not showing up to a five year old’s party not so much.

First of all, the kid will probably never remember his 5th birthday, but if he does he won’t care who was in attendance. All he will care about is the fun he had, maybe how good the cake tasted and the toys he received. If the parent’s could not properly plan a party, because one of the major rules of party planning is expect no shows, then they shouldn’t have parties. I know of several instances where children were invited to kid’s parties and something came up last minute for the parents and the child could not attend. Never have I heard of a parent being invoiced for missing the festivities.

What does this really say about the state of the world today? Are we that petty and self absorbed that we charge our friends for not coming to a party? If this is the way we are living I feel sad for the child celebrating his birthday because no one is going to want to come to another one of his parties for fear the parents may decide to sue. Maybe next time the parents won’t like the presents and sue the attendees for bad presents.


4 thoughts on “RSVP

  1. This is taking it too far but I understand form a planning position to put something together and take into account the amount of people and how much food to get etc and then folks don’t show. I think it’s extremely rude. However, I don’t think this action really resolved anything and actually made the parent who threw the party end up looking like the bad guy.

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